Your stories are not happy, this is true, but life is not happy. I don’t write about my bad times mostly because I can’t, I’m not there yet. I haven’t always had any peace of mind. That doesn’t stop me from trying now.
I think what is the worst is when people assume they know you. They make these assumptions and it’s their disappoint in the assumption that makes them leave. It honestly has nothing to do with your truth or your honesty.
Many people just want to be spoon fed a good take, but I’ve found as I’ve seen the darkest in humans and the best, (you don’t truly know a person until you see them at their most vulnerable) that humanity at its worse wants a fairy tale because reality is too much.
What makes us different is we see the world for what it is. I’ve chosen to not stay in my darkness, because that leads me to bad choices. I don’t write about the bad things often, but when I do I’m honest, vulnerable, and open. Many people don’t like that. They want the happy Dorie who has idioms, and flowers, and bakes. That’s only one side of me though. So it’s hard to be accepted when people only assume. Then we add reality into the mix and all hope for some sort of acceptance leaves.
Don’t stop telling your story the way you want to. Don’t sugar coat the things you want to say. That is an injustice to you and your reader. Authenticity is the most important. If readers don’t want to read it they don’t have to.
Just like me, I think, I’m not a self help poster, I’m just a woman trying to find her philosophy in the construct of living it the way I see fit.
And that's how we all are making this space unique but relatable at the same time... Every story every thought every observation here are obviously not liked or hated by everyone... You've lots of listeners to understand or I must say your every word will reach to it's people... Indeed truth is always bold.. Amazing writing
I just want to say I feel this so deeply. It took me years to finally start writing publicly, even though it’s been a lifelong dream. And still, every time I hit “publish” or share my book, there’s this knot in my stomach that whispers, “Is it good enough? Is it okay to put this out there?”
Your honesty here matters more than you know. The fact that people are DM’ing you to say they finally feel seen, that’s the kind of writing that goes beyond polish or structure. That’s soul-level connection, even when it’s not pretty.
I actually wrote something recently about the difference between self-esteem and self-worth, because I’m still learning that my value as a writer isn’t the same as how “good” I think the writing is.
Please keep going. Raw doesn’t mean wrong. And what you’re doing is reaching people who needed someone brave enough to go first.
I left a long comment on pancake sushi, but what I originally came here to say was to keep writing the dark shit. I admit I can’t read all of it. But the prostitution one seems fine. Who hasn’t fallen in love with a stripper at least once in their life?
I think you should stay true to yourself. Your writing is genuinely good, and your topics are different from other accounts, which is exactly what Substack is for: getting to know the writer behind the words. If you changed your style, it wouldn’t feel like you anymore. Some topics might be a bit much for me, but others, like the metaphore with the fox, are beautiful.
I can guarantee you I will continue reading what you write for as long as you write it....It's about time you got to the nitty gritty for you as well as others to understand you. Yes, as others have said, your writing hits a lot of us some just don't say it. Hard read no....reality absolutely.
I’m not even done with this post, yet, but I have to say something and don’t care if it offends anyone: FUCK what people think. If you try to adjust your voice to please some asshole square who wants to change you to fit his or her style, your writing WILL suck.
Write what you write. What comes to you, write it down. That’s how it is supposed to work. Your audience will find you. They already are.
If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
And fuck the fairytale addicts. You want a happy ending watch a fucking Disney film.
You want to read *good writing* read this guy right here.
Write what makes you feel real and yourself I guess? Whatever it is, raw, violent, emotional, intimate…anything. Everyone hates their writing, I mean we’re all insecure and underestimating our own strengths. And we will always be here.
Fuck happy endings
I had your rant on while reading this, which was a mindfuck but in a good way ♥️♥️
HEHEHEHHEHE.
Your stories are not happy, this is true, but life is not happy. I don’t write about my bad times mostly because I can’t, I’m not there yet. I haven’t always had any peace of mind. That doesn’t stop me from trying now.
I think what is the worst is when people assume they know you. They make these assumptions and it’s their disappoint in the assumption that makes them leave. It honestly has nothing to do with your truth or your honesty.
Many people just want to be spoon fed a good take, but I’ve found as I’ve seen the darkest in humans and the best, (you don’t truly know a person until you see them at their most vulnerable) that humanity at its worse wants a fairy tale because reality is too much.
What makes us different is we see the world for what it is. I’ve chosen to not stay in my darkness, because that leads me to bad choices. I don’t write about the bad things often, but when I do I’m honest, vulnerable, and open. Many people don’t like that. They want the happy Dorie who has idioms, and flowers, and bakes. That’s only one side of me though. So it’s hard to be accepted when people only assume. Then we add reality into the mix and all hope for some sort of acceptance leaves.
Don’t stop telling your story the way you want to. Don’t sugar coat the things you want to say. That is an injustice to you and your reader. Authenticity is the most important. If readers don’t want to read it they don’t have to.
Just like me, I think, I’m not a self help poster, I’m just a woman trying to find her philosophy in the construct of living it the way I see fit.
We are all valid. You are valid.
DM me anytime.
Thank you, and I'm sorry for the delay. This was an older notification.
Everything you say is real and accurate. I can understand your take on everything you say. They want the strong silent type who goes with the flow.
Appreciate it.
I’m in.
Thank you.
Reading it felt like someone was holding his heart in his hands and shaking it to draw every small bit of whatever was inside !
I was having an existential crisis. All better now. Thank you.
And that's how we all are making this space unique but relatable at the same time... Every story every thought every observation here are obviously not liked or hated by everyone... You've lots of listeners to understand or I must say your every word will reach to it's people... Indeed truth is always bold.. Amazing writing
Thank you. I don't even know what I'm doing half the time, but I appreciate it.
My pleasure 😇 You're absolutely doing the right thing 👏
Appreciate it.
😇😇💛
I just want to say I feel this so deeply. It took me years to finally start writing publicly, even though it’s been a lifelong dream. And still, every time I hit “publish” or share my book, there’s this knot in my stomach that whispers, “Is it good enough? Is it okay to put this out there?”
Your honesty here matters more than you know. The fact that people are DM’ing you to say they finally feel seen, that’s the kind of writing that goes beyond polish or structure. That’s soul-level connection, even when it’s not pretty.
I actually wrote something recently about the difference between self-esteem and self-worth, because I’m still learning that my value as a writer isn’t the same as how “good” I think the writing is.
Please keep going. Raw doesn’t mean wrong. And what you’re doing is reaching people who needed someone brave enough to go first.
Thank you, and sorry for the delay. Yes. I agree. I need to see the self-esteem and self worth. I will look tonight or tomorrow.
I left a long comment on pancake sushi, but what I originally came here to say was to keep writing the dark shit. I admit I can’t read all of it. But the prostitution one seems fine. Who hasn’t fallen in love with a stripper at least once in their life?
Thanks for the encouragement.
Regarding the post at noon, well, it's dark. No punches pulled.
Tomorrow, I'm writing about cocaine.
I've gotten too soft.
I’m here for all of it
Okay, thank you.
Buckle up.
I think happy endings are rare. Let your story lead you in whatever direction they chose. You will find your authentic audience soon! ❤️
I’ve heard so much about these endings, yet writers and readers are brainwashed to think that’s how it really happens.
But we love your writings 🫶
I guess?
Thanks though.
I’m here for your true story.
I'll finish what I've got. It won't be pleasant.
Buckle up.
I think you should stay true to yourself. Your writing is genuinely good, and your topics are different from other accounts, which is exactly what Substack is for: getting to know the writer behind the words. If you changed your style, it wouldn’t feel like you anymore. Some topics might be a bit much for me, but others, like the metaphore with the fox, are beautiful.
I'll do what I can. Thank you for your kind words.
I can guarantee you I will continue reading what you write for as long as you write it....It's about time you got to the nitty gritty for you as well as others to understand you. Yes, as others have said, your writing hits a lot of us some just don't say it. Hard read no....reality absolutely.
Thanks for seeing it that way. It's the way it was always intended.
Some don't get it that way.
I’m not even done with this post, yet, but I have to say something and don’t care if it offends anyone: FUCK what people think. If you try to adjust your voice to please some asshole square who wants to change you to fit his or her style, your writing WILL suck.
Write what you write. What comes to you, write it down. That’s how it is supposed to work. Your audience will find you. They already are.
If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
And fuck the fairytale addicts. You want a happy ending watch a fucking Disney film.
You want to read *good writing* read this guy right here.
Disney ripped off the Brothers Grimm, and they didn't do castles...
This is true! The original Sleeping Beauty is so fucked up.
Don't read Beauty and the Beast either...
Write what makes you feel real and yourself I guess? Whatever it is, raw, violent, emotional, intimate…anything. Everyone hates their writing, I mean we’re all insecure and underestimating our own strengths. And we will always be here.
Thanks for the kind words.
I'll be getting darker. I've just been too soft.
At the end of the day, you’re the boss here
My boss has pigtails, but thanks for thinking of me that way.